Ronde heupen, volle borsten en billen, dat is de laatste tijd helemaal hot. Ik heb ze niet, die ronde heupen en smalle taille. Ik ben slank gebouwd, maar wel een echte vrouw. Ik heb rondingen, maar geen grote borsten en billen. Billen en ronde, doorlopende heupen zoals Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, Iggy Azalea of J-Lo zal ik nooit hebben, zelfs niet als ik ooit wat dikker zou zijn. Mijn heupen lopen niet door, maar hebben een zogenaamde Hip-Dip. Halverwege mijn heupen, zo ongeveer waar mijn onderbroek loopt, is het iets smaller.

Vroeger, met name toen ik herstellende was van mijn eetstoornis, vond ik die dip best wel moeilijk. Ik had het idee dat ik daardoor de zogenaamde Love handles of Muffintop kreeg door de aangekomen kilo's. Strakke jurkjes droeg ik daardoor niet. Afslankbroekjes werkte niet. Ik dacht soms ook dat ik die vorm had omdat mijn ondergoed daar precies langs liep, dus kocht ik hogere broekjes. Zwaarder worden en een gezond gewicht bereiken, oke, maar waarom werd mijn lichaam niet wat gestroomlijnder? Waarom zoveel hobbels en bobbels? In die tijd vergrootte ik dat soort vormen waarschijnlijk heel erg uit, maar toch voelde ik me vreemd. Het was toch zo dat als je aankwam, je gewoon wat bredere, vollere en vooral ronde heupen kreeg? Waarom deukte het bij mij dan halverwege in?

This is my body. My natural shape. Without the gym. Havent seen it in years. My shape. My secret. My shame. My disgust. . What every workout was supposed to "cure" What every spanx is supposed to morph. What no one could ever find attractive. What needed surgery. What was never perfectly round like the loved and coveted kardashians hips and butt . Its a shame that every single day people all over the world are being paid to edit out something as simple as the shapes and figures we all come in... And for what? Money? Leaving many of is feeling like absolute freaks just for the shape of the container we came in. . I wore this tight fitted dress for the first time to work after i had just joined the body positive community. I felt shame the whole time. I ended up using a shirt to cover my butt and hip area. Since its what im most ashamed of. . Today i wore this dress. I felt confident in some ways. Some ways not. I didnt feel like that part of me was beautiful. But today I STILL FELT BEAUTIFUL. that inch and a half of my body shape DIDNT MATTER. That. is. INSANE. it could be all the work ive done in therapy. It could be the distractions from all the things i need to do lately in my very busy healthy and functional life. Or it could be the body positive community. Pretty sure it was all three but LORD HAVE MERCY I CANT BELIEVE ive come to this place that im at. I JUST CANT. what is this? Who is this??? This is the first time i feel like a PERSON. not just a BODY. . Thank you to everyone who has been brave and helped me in so many ways with your love and light and openness and vulnerabilities. Ure fucking angels and u continue to change my life. Especially those of u ive been in touch with. . I have never felt a place was safe to be close to other women. Until now. I cant imagine having continued my break from exercise without u guys!! I believe it's what kept me in this. We are fucking helping save each other's lives and it's fucking beautiful. ❤❤❤ . #hipdip #hipdips #shape #body

Een bericht gedeeld door havabear (@hava.bear) op 27 Apr 2017 om 7:04 PDT

Op Instagram is deze week de hashtag #Hipdip ontstaan om zogenaamde body divercity te normaliseren. Want ieder lichaam is anders, maar toch mooi zoals het is. Een van de vrouwen die ook meedoet aan deze hype is IrinaLund en zij zegt op Instagram:

I saw a post yesterday talking about hip dips. It talked about how so many women out there try to get rid of hip dips in the gym. Only to be disappointed with no results. Truth is, there is no muscle tissue in that area of the body. That is why no one every really sees results. Hip dips are perfectly normal, especially for women like myself who are not blessed with hips. Here, the difference is visible. Front view (hip dips in sight) vs posing (no hip dips). Embrace your body and know that whether you have hip dips or not, you are still beautiful.

This outfit doesn't make me feel more girly, which is a good thing. All a nice outfit should do is make you feel comfortable and cute . . . . #outfitoftheday #outfit #ootd #blue #selfie #nonbinary #nonbinaryboy #fishnet #fishnets #tall #feelingcute #stayups #hipdip

Een bericht gedeeld door That Feminine Dude Charlie (@madprincecharlie) op 14 Jun 2017 om 4:40 PDT

Bit of a nervy post for me but LETS DO IT ANYWAY. Hipdips. Guys, I didn't even know this was a thing until about 3 years ago. I spent all my teenage years thinking I had awful muffin top/ love handles; hating the fact that I didn't look 'normal' in bodycon dresses (thus NEVER wearing them).. and honestly I think it was probably my biggest motivator to start exercising when I was about 17-18 (so much cardioooo). I was desperate to lose the 'love handles' so I could finally wear bodycon dresses (I'm actually cringing as I type this thinking back on how obsessed I was over this) It was my biggest insecurity One day, I was scrolling through reddit fitness or something and came across 'hip dips'.. I was like *wtf is a hipdip... OH-MY-GOD-THATS JUST LIKE ME*. Cue the life-changing moment when I realised that I did not have awful muffin top, that actually I just had high hips. My SKELETON was set this way. [If you don't know what I'm talking about at this point plz see the picture. Also known as violin hips/ hip dents. Basically hips just dip in before getting to legs] So, I realised 1. I wasn't fat 2. There was absolutely nothing I could do to change the shape of my hips (no amount of exercise or calorie reduction will change your skeleton) 3. I'd never be comfortable in a bodycon dress.... but, this was okay. Somehow, in this moment of realisation, I was totally fine with this. All of my insecurity was coming from thinking it was something wrong with me, something I had to change. Realising I couldn't change it just brought me some kind of body-acceptance and such RELIEF I'm gonna be honest, I don't love my hips; but we all have bodyparts we're not sold on. However, I know I can't change them... and that makes me happy, cause I can focus on working on things that I can change eg. growing quads that can crush a watermellon [If you're wondering what the point/message of the post is supposed to be, tbh I'm not sure. Body confidence in the things you can't change, and bettering the things you can change? Self-love? Learning what hip dips are? Take what you will :') ] Also ps. not saying hip dips are a bad thing, just talking from my own experience #okaydone

Een bericht gedeeld door Rebecca Nolan (@tea.to.triceps) op 13 Jun 2017 om 7:58 PDT

Zelf heb ik nooit de naam Hip Dip gekend, maar heb ik er met mijn beste vriendin wel eens over gepraat. Over die deuk en waarom het niet gewoon rond doorliep. Blijkbaar een hele normale vorm, maar voor mij een punt van frustratie. Praten over de moeite die ik had met mijn veranderende lichaamsgewicht en vormen heeft me veel geholpen. Uiteindelijk kreeg ik mijn leven na de eetstoornis weer terug en kon ik langzaam het belang van voldoen aan een schoonheidsideaal loslaten.

Ik had geen ronde, doorlopende heupen, jurkjes tekende een beetje op mijn lichaam. Ik had geen volle borsten, ik was bij mijn bovenlijf smal. Ik kon dat toen nog moeilijk zien, ik richtte me op alle kleine hobbeltjes en bobbeltje, deukjes, strepen en putjes. Maar ik was prima zoals ik was. MET mijn Hip Dip. En nog steeds. Toen ik deze trend voorbij zag komen in een artikel, schoot me ineens te binnen dat ik die vorm inderdaad ook heb. Ach ja.

Heb jij je wel eens druk gemaakt over je Hip Dip?